I am in a quandry about a friendship and I thought I would turn to y'all for your thoughts and advice. Long story short, a good friend of mine stopped talking to me after I was unable to see her while we were home visiting over the holidays.
Now for some of the details...I had messaged her prior to our traveling home to MA asking about getting together. She said sure, maybe some night after work...said she'd get back to me. Well, she never did. As a result, I ended up seeing some other friends...some friends that I had not seen in almost 4 years. We did the best we could with the limited time we had at home and unfortunately, that meant we could not see everyone. (I should have/could have reached out to her again while we were home, but did not.) When we got back to TX she said she was sad she did not see us. I emailed her and apologized for it not working out and asked if we could try harder to stay in touch this year. (We sort of lost touch last year...we both had a lot going on in our lives...I was going through treatments and the loss and she was going through a divorce that was years in the making.) I never heard back from her. In March I messaged her again asking if I had done something wrong. She said she was just sad that it seemed like when we were home there was never time to get together.
I think she forgot that when I was home last year it was never for anything good, except for when we were home in December. We flew home 4 times last year (including the holidays). In March J's dad was diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer...3 weeks after the diagnosis J lost his dad. Then we flew back again in June for the memorial service. She knew the reasons for our trips home and I thought she knew social visits would be severly limited for me.
This friend, M, is one of my few IRL friends who knew anything about our struggles and losses. She only knew about the 1st two losses, as I did not advertise when we suffered a loss and she never really reached out to ask how we were doing. She is also one of the few friends has been to visit us in TX.
In May, I emailed her to let her know we were pregnant and received a message back that said: Congrats.
I've tried contacting her several times via email and Facebook but have not received any replies.
I just don't know what to do at this point. Part of me thinks I should just pick up the phone and call her, but there is a big piece of me that is anxious about trying that. I also wonder if she'd even bother answering the phone. I know my Mom included her on the save the date for our baby shower, but she has not heard anything either. My Mom, the eternal optimist, said not to worry, there is plenty of time.
I feel like she's broken up with me and I am chasing after her. It's so bizarre.
Sorry, for the long babbling post today...any thoughts/advice are welcome. :)